The Difference Between Fear and Procrastination
There is a big difference between not wanting to do something and being afraid of doing something. But often we trick ourselves into thinking that we simply don't want to when really we're afraid of it. Here's what I mean.
We all have chores and things we don't like doing. We might not like doing dishes but we're not afraid of them and we will eventually do them. We might not like going grocery shopping but we're not afraid of the grocery store and so eventually the need to eat will force us to the store to get some food.
Fear though prevents us from doing things. We're afraid to speak our truth and so we don't and we never will without a massive push from somewhere. We're afraid to let that person or thing go and we won't until it gets very destructive to us. We're afraid of stepping out of our shells and we won't until the choice is taken away from us.
The image at the top of this blog post says it all, "I had to make you uncomfortable. If I hadn't, you would never have moved.". It's this sentiment that is the difference between fear and procrastination.
We do a fine job at tricking ourselves into believing it's procrastination or simply not wanting to do something that's the reason for our avoidance of it. But when we look deeper and we sit with it for a minute, we realize that we're avoiding it because we're afraid of it.
The first teacher I found on my spiritual path was Abraham-Hicks. Abraham-Hicks teaches manifestation and they very rarely touch on the idea of needing to heal past trauma and worthiness issues in favour of creating the highest vibe possible in any given moment. I thought I could use the teachings of Abraham-Hicks to bypass doing the much-needed healing work. They seemed to be offering a way around the pain. Not so.
You see I want to win the lottery because I think it would be a lot of fun. But for a long time, the need to win the lottery had an element of fear to it. If I had won the lottery back then I wouldn't be here right now. I wouldn't be doing what I'm doing because I wouldn't have had to. I wouldn't have had to face the fears around speaking my truth or showing up or getting out of my shell. I wouldn't have had to deal with the pain and trauma that I carried with me from my life experience. I wouldn't have had to confront all of those demons.
But I did have to confront the demons because the Universe doesn't let us go around things, we have to go through them. So in order to win the lottery, I have to do the work. I have to get over all the fears. I have to heal the unworthiness issues. I have to do the inner work first and then, when I don't want the lottery in order to avoid my life, it will show up. It's taken me a long time to get to a place where I am able to acknowledge that and accept the fear that was lurking below the surface. Everything we all want is on the other side of that fear.
Take the time to really look at whether the avoidance of something is just procrastination and not wanting to or whether there is an element of fear lying below the surface. These are things we have to heal in order to move forward. It serves us well when we do this work. It's important that we keep going. What are you avoiding?